If you were raised as a Christian, or were recently interested, you may have heard about a supposedly stricter dating life than atheists. While that can be true in some Christian circles, that may not necessarily be true in every single context. However, something that all Christians follow is the Holy Bible, however you want to interpret it. So, that leads to the question, “What are the bible verses about dating?”
There are many different branches of Christianity, and different versions of the Bible, each with slightly different translations, which could impact the meaning of each verse. For this article, quotes from the King James Version, one of the most popular versions, was used. Without further ado, here are some of the most insightful quotes about dating from the bible:
“Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” – 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
This passage of the Bible refers to the nature of love that God deems to be good. Therefore, as a Christian, you should try to be “patient and kind” with love, and avoid being “arrogant and rude” or “envious and boastful”. This should be the way that you should treat your partner, with patience and kindness, and avoid being a dick in general. Do not resent your partner for wrongdoings, but forgive to the greatest of your abilities. Also, build tolerance instead of being easily irritated, as irritation can quickly lead to anger. When truth is found in God, be happy that God gave you love and praise him. Realize that the love between you and your partner should mirror God’s love for the world.
“Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.” –1 Corinthians 6:18
God makes it very clear in this Bible verse that sexual immorality of any kind is not tolerated. God warns that sexual immorality is different from other sins, as it harms both your relationship with God, but it also harms you physically. Obviously, this means that cheating in any manner is ungodly, even if it is just thinking about someone else sexually, as God considers thought and action to be equally sinful. This means that you might have to avoid putting yourself in sexually immoral situations, such as at drunken parties or orgies, rather than follow your friends. Sometimes, this can be difficult with the wrong group of friends, so it would be wise to grow closer to other Christian or sexually moral people.
“Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” –Genesis 2:24
A bit of a given one, but this Bible verse demonstrates that God approves of the modern culture of moving out of their parents house after marriage. Therefore, after marriage, try to move out as soon as possible and form your own bond to your spouse in your own house.
“Keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life.” –Proverbs 4:23
Here, God asks his followers to stay vigilant, given that it “springs of life”. This means that you should be vigilant when in love, to make sure you are not deceived by anyone threatening the relationship, or even your partner. In your daily life, this means that you should recognize and actively stay away from things that threaten the relationship, such as pornography or a bad mindset. In this verse, God promised a special reward for those that keep their heart pure, this can be interpreted in many different ways, but, the “springs of life” can refer to a happy marriage or eternal happiness in heaven.
“Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.” –Proverbs 31:30
This verse serves as both a warning and a promise to both men and women looking for a relationship. God warns that women can possess earthly things such as charm and beauty, and still be deceitful, but the true sign of a worthy woman is one that serves the Lord. Therefore, when looking for a spouse, make sure that you consider more than just looks or sweet talk, but to discern whether or not they mean what they are saying. Furthermore, this verse encourages Christians to form relationships with other Christians, since such people have true value, and should therefore be feared.
“House and wealth are inherited from fathers, but a prudent wife is from the Lord.” –Proverbs 19:14
This passage sends a similar message to the previous verse, as it also cautions Christians about the differences between earthly goods and divine goods. While God expects parents of the world to provide for their children to live their happiest life (with monetary assets such as a house), God says that a good marriage is divine rather than earthly. This also points to the same point made in the previous verse, that God would like Christians to bond with other Christians, as they are, in a sense, sent by God. Presumably, this is to make sure there is minimum religious conflict in a marriage and to keep hearts pure, as other Christians will generally also follow the Bibles’ sexual morality laws.
Overall, the Holy Bible contains many warnings and blessings regarding love and relationships. While you should maintain sexual morality in a monogamous relationship, as we would recommend as well, you should also stay vigilant of dangers in your relationships. There is a strong recommendation from God to date other Christians, as a way to limit marriage conflict and to further your own faith. At the very least, be careful when selecting a girlfriend/wife, as God warns that humans are very easily deceived and can be corrupted by evil real quick.